Pricey Coleen
I’ve two sons aged forty two and forty. They’ve all the time been very aggressive which I’ve put right down to them being shut in age.
4 years in the past, they went into enterprise collectively, which went very properly at first. They’re each very shiny and exhausting working, and I liked watching them making their enterprise a hit.
Nevertheless, six months in the past, it began to go mistaken.
The enterprise hit a couple of issues they usually began to bicker, identical to they’ve all the time carried out.
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They began accusing one another of issues like taking cash out of the enterprise, going behind one another’s backs and making an attempt to steal shoppers from one another.
They maintain making an attempt to tug me into it however I don’t need to take sides. Now they’re not talking and it’s breaking my coronary heart.
They’re each married with youngsters and the cousins aren’t allowed to see one another both, so it looks like the entire household is being torn aside.
It’s my sixty fifth birthday subsequent month and I needed an enormous household BBQ however my sons refuse to be in the identical room as one another. How can I make them see sense?
Coleen says
They’re grown males appearing like youngsters. My final-ditch try and cope with them can be to see them individually and inform them each they should develop up. It’s only a enterprise
they usually’re all the time going to have ups and downs.
Their behaviour is spilling out and ruining so many individuals’s lives, together with their very own youngsters, who need to have a relationship with their cousins. It’s properly documented that I’ve additionally had a household feud and didn’t converse to my sisters for some time however we by no means stopped our youngsters speaking.
You’ll be able to’t take it out on the individuals round you or attempt to get them to take sides. So inform them this. And inform them that you simply didn’t convey them as much as be so egocentric.
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Clarify that in your birthday you need a pretty household BBQ and say: “Are you able to not even do this for me?” Then stroll out and depart them to consider it.
My two boys have been as soon as in a band collectively they usually clashed a bit over their totally different work ethics. Someday I sat down with them and stated, “I don’t need you to be the Gallagher brothers!” They each agreed with me and went their separate methods.
So maybe recommend they don’t work collectively once more as a result of going into enterprise with household could be very dangerous.
When it’s going nice, it’s pretty, however when it goes fallacious it may tear a household aside.